“So, you sure you are not super horny?” “oh, so you are lesbian when with your girl crush and straight when with your guy crush” “do you date like, listen I know this is a phase, even I sent nudes to a female once.”
“SO BASICALLY YOU JUST WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH EVERYONE?”
“you are not bisexual you just never had the right type of sex yet” “do you like to have threesomes?” “Are you afraid to come out as gay?” “how can you be monogamous?” “are you like 50/50?” “since when did you become bi?”
So, these are the questions that might be bombarded on someone who is bisexual. Let me first tell you what being bisexual is, No I am not attracted to every girl I see on the street or every guy I see on street. I am very picky, I am not a creep or someone who is 24X7 horny, I am all about myself.
Now, see, there is a difference between being bisexual and gay, The term ‘homosexual’ was first used by Victorian scientists who regarded same-sex attraction and sexual behavior as symptoms of mental disorders or moral deficiency. Bisexual is a term used for the people who get sexually attracted to both males and females.
Bisexuals are people who have romantic attraction, sexual attraction, or sexual behavior towards both males and females. Bisexuality is one of the three main classifications of sexual orientation. The Free Dictionary defines bisexual as:
- Sexually attracted to both men and women.
- Showing characteristics of both sexes a bisexual personality.
- Of or relating to both sexes.
People who have distinct but not unique sexual preferences for one sex also identify themselves as bisexual. Throughout history, bisexuals have been observed in several human and animal societies. Bisexuality is very common in the 21st century and has formed a different group of people.
Now, I am not a mutant, but honestly, I enjoy both companies. I am not a creep that you will have to be scared of me because I might date you if you are the same gender as me, I have choices too?!
Unfortunately, there are indeed cases of people in relationships with another gender who, while romantically or sexually attracted to the same gender, claim bisexuality to justify why they are still with someone they are not into.
And surely, people like this can give a bad reputation to those who truly are into multiple genders, but they also need the love and support necessary to allow them to be who they are.
More importantly, these cases are few and far between. This isn’t the norm. If someone tells you that they’re bisexual, it’s far more likely that they are bisexual than someone who is in the closet.
The experimental phase is something we all are supposed to go through some time before we graduate college, and it typically involves a drunken kiss or a one-night stand with someone of the same gender.
The problem with associating this phase with bisexuality – aside from the fact that assuming that this is a phase that all people go through – is that it is incredibly demeaning to those who are bisexual, those who are earnestly seeking a loving relationship with someone regardless of gender.
There’s little more degrading than being used as someone’s guinea pig to test their sexuality, especially if you are unaware of it and see a potential partner in them. And it’s offensive to imply that that is what bisexual people are doing.
Being bisexual doesn’t mean you are constantly shifting between heterosexual and homosexual relationships, never able to settle down.(Horny)
As discussed earlier, it is not an inconsistent idea that a person might opt to spend their life with one gender, a choice not dictated by sexuality, but by love.
Just like any person finds themselves attracted to more people than just their partner, so is the case for bisexual people. And just like any person can remain monogamous despite those attractions, so can bisexual Horny people.
That being said, it’s important to remember that monogamy is not the only way to be in a committed relationship. People of any sexual orientation can be nonmonogamous and have perfectly healthy relationships.
Not all bisexual people are nonmonogamous, but those who deserve respect for their relationship choices as functions of love and sexuality, not inevitable results of their sexual orientation.